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Don’t ever say I love you unless you mean it. To do otherwise is a kind of cruelty that I don’t think those who perpetrate it even consider. Saying it isn’t nearly enough. When you say that you love, those to whom you have spoken these life-affirming and miraculous words go to look for that love. They ask themselves why and how you love them. And so to be sure that the gift they think they heard you give voice to is for them, to make certain that these words are truth, they seek it out–the tangible and intangible exhibition of your love…

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…When you utter these words, no matter the kind of love, there is a promise to the being to whom they are directed also being made. When you say these words, you are promising to prove them in deeds. Be prepared to show. I believe in quantifiable evidence of love. That’s right. It can be measured. And if you can’t measure it, if you can’t see it, if it can’t be felt by the loved being, how can you expect for that being to believe in its existence?

Show me how, please.

I show You because I don’t want You to ever doubt it. Or rather, I am compelled to act–my love must express itself to You–and thus You are shown.

Maybe You never learned how. Watch me, I’ll show You. I’ll hold your hand.

You can trust my love.

(For You to reference…)

Acts of Love:

1. Kiss

2. Make love with

3. Cook for me

4. Engage in a thoughtful conversation with me

5. Return my call

6. Write (and SEND) a letter to me

7. Lock eyes with me

8. Care for me when I’m sick

9. Enquire about how I’m doing/feeling

10. Pat me on the back

11. Smile at me

12. Listen to me

13. Hug me

14. Recommend a book to me

15. Give/Loan a book to me

16. Communicate with me regularly

17. Give me a back rub

18. Take my car for an oil change

19. Brush my hair

20. Give me a foot rub

21. Set up wireless internet for me

22. Kill (or release into the wild) spiders or lady bugs

23. Acknowledge my birthday

24. Watch a movie with me

25. Invite me to your house

26. Introduce me to your friends and family

27. Show an interest in my writing

28. Tell me when you come to town

29. Make a mix tape/CD

30. Be nice to me

31. Forgive me when I say something inconsiderate

32. Forgive me when I pick a fight

33. Forgive me when I use you as the inspiration for a piece of fiction

34. Forgive me when I take a short break from you

35. Understand when I am hormonal

36. Don’t accuse me, though, of being hormonal

37. Be patient with me

38. Procreate (a.k.a. “go half on a baby”) with me

39. Tell me the truth

40. Take me seriously

41. Don’t take me for granted

42. Read a book I recommend to you

43. If it may effect me, consider my feelings when making a decision

44. Respond to my emails

45. Write me an email

46. Remember my middle name

47. If you’re a vegetarian, let me eat meat around you

48. Don’t judge me for eating meat

49. Hold me when I cry

50. Make a home with me

51. Make attempts to connect other than text messaging

52. Help me to reach orgasm every time we make love

53. Tell me about your work

54. Tell me about your desires

55. Tell me about your fears

56. Tell me what you’re thinking

57. Let me help you

58. Be vulnerable with me

59. Eat the food I cook for you

60. Travel with me

61. Laugh with me

62. Laugh at my jokes

63. Decorate my classroom

64. Take a nap together

65. Kiss my belly!!!

66. Say goodbye properly before you leave (my life or my presence)

67. Photograph me

68. Introduce me to your children

69. Hold my hand

70. Hold my hand when I’m scared

71. Go with me to the doctor/hospital

72. Rescue me from a predicament I’ve gotten tangled up in

73. Ask about my day

74. Pay attention when I tell you about it

75. If you have to go, stay until I fall asleep

76. Follow through

77. Be careful about my feelings

78. Create something (artistic) with me

79. Be fair to me

80. Call when you can’t make it

81. Help me to paint

82. Help me to pack

83. Help me to move

84. Respect my privacy

85. Respect my need for solitude, every once in a while

86. Dance with me

87. Dance slow with me

88. Sing to me

89. Stop everything because you’ve just got to have your way with me!

90. Seduce me

91. Feed me

92. Put me in my place

93. Carry my purse/bag

94. Miss me when I’m gone

95. Ignore the phone when we’re together

96. Make time for me

97. Make time for me even when it seems impossible

98. Pick me up if I’m in an accident

99. Believe in feminism

100. Tell me, as gently as you can, when you don’t love me anymore.

These have/do/will work for me. We’re all different. Please feel free to borrow from this list. Tell me if it worked. Tell me what has/does/will work for you.